My Love for you is ENDLESS, my Patience is LIMITED!!

Oh Tommy...I think one of my favorite things to say to you right now is, "my love for you is endless but my patience is LIMITED!"  This may be shocking to you, my soon to be 11 year old son (May 6th), but I too once thought my parents were clueless, that if they could only see it from my perspective they would see that I was RIGHT!!  Now as I look back, I realize I was oh so WRONG!  Sorry Mom and Dad! :)  When you shake your head at me, mumble underneath your breathe, and slam doors...I honestly think I may have you move out by 12 maybe sooner.  Especially since you know so much, you could probably get yourself a job, clothe, feed, and shelter yourself WAAAAYYYY better than Dad and I could.  Wow I sooo sound like my Mom right now...again...I am so SORRY Mom and Dad!  The only thing is I dont remember thinking this at 10 almost 11 years old.  I swear I was at least 13/14 when I started thinking like that.  I am all for overacheiving but this my dear is not one of those situations. 

Thomas, you are such a good kid...usually :).... You are a tremendous help to your Dad and I.  You have a heart of gold and on your birthday this year I will blog about your exciting entrance into our family.  I know how hard it is to be the oldest and to have different expectations then younger siblings, but life is not easy or fair.  I want you to like me but I DO NOT want to be your friend.  I want to be your Mom.  SO if you dont like me right now, thats ok.  You'll like me later. ;)  Ask your Grandma and Grandpa about this.  Its more important that you love and respect me.  I refuse to reward mediocrity, I will not treat you for doing well in school, making your bed, and brushing your teeth.  Even if your friends parents do that, I will NOT.  That would be like someone paying me for driving and not getting in an accident, walking and not falling, cooking and not poisoning people.  You get to a certain point in life and good behavior and hard work is just expected, NOT REWARDED!  Rewarding mediocrity breeds entitlement, and honestly I think entitlement is one of the worst human qualities out there. 

On my mission for you to be a well adjusted, respectable, humble, human being, I want you to learn about self pride.  Doing something well only because someone is watching, waiting to reward you is not the kind of young man I want you to be.  But rather because its the right thing to do and you have enough pride in yourself to do things 110%.  That's the kind of young man I want you to be.  Do the right thing when no one is watching.  I know you are capable of this and am so proud of you when I see glimpse of this characteristic developing in you.

Son please know that I always have your back.  Every decision I make in regards to you is one I make out of love and truly knowing whats best for you.  Its true my love for you is ENDLESS.  And actually although my patience may feel limited at times, that too is endless.  I will never ever ever give up on you, EVER.  I am so proud of you and love you to the moon and back.  My heart and soul are filled with anxious anticipation of watching you grow and mature and become the young man, I know you can be.  OR ELSE...haha!  LOVE YOU THOMAS WYATT :)